If you like to travel this month's
tips are for you. Think of your neighborhood as your sphere of influence.
As a lady you have much to offer your neighborhood. Your example will impact those around you....maybe
even world wide.
This is not so far fetched when you
consider the tools available today.
This world wide connection places huge
responsibilities on every citizen. Today is election day in the United States. Decisions that are made through
that process will impact the entire world for years to come. All actions are consequential and the ripple effect is
magnified by instant communications. However, it is that instantaneous nature of communications that represents the
danger. There isn't time for careful verification and evaluation before "facts" are published. Thus,
the challenge of wading through the huge amount of unvetted information that is "published" requires a tremendous
amount of hard work. Ironically, making informed decisions is more difficult than ever. A lady accepts this responsibility
with grace and courage. Throughout history, it has been the women that have preserved culture and values.
Isn't this a fun time of year with the holiday season approaching. As part of expanding
your neighborhood perspective to a world perspective, research the traditions of this time of year in other countries and
Chances are you will learn more about
your own traditions as you examine others. It is very likely that you will find some that you may want to add to your
We can spend the next several days sharing
travel tips. Always dress appropriately for the situation. If you do you will the respect you deserve. So, think
twice before wearing cut offs and flip flops on an airplane.
You may have to be as old as dirt, a Lady Virginia expression, to know that passengers on airplanes and trains used
to dress up for the trip. Ladies wore hats, heels and gloves. Gentlemen wore suits. This is not ancient
history....this was considered appropriate travel attire until into the 1960's.
Fortunately, the fashion for flight crew to dress in shorts and athletic shoes is going away. Did
it ever occur to you, that these people are there to help you in case of an emergency. So, the plane is filling with
smoke, you can hardly see or breathe and you don't know whose instructions to follow. Is that guy in the shorts
and "tennies" a member of the crew or another passenger. Could be a fatal mistake if you followed the wrong
pair of shorts!
Perhaps the crew is beginning to understand
the value of wearing a recognized uniform. A uniform automatically conveys authority. As flights and flight delays become
longer and the cabins become unbearably more crowded, the tension can be expected to escalate. Thus the crew may benefit from
anything such as the authority a uniform represents as it may reduce the temptation for argument.
It may be hard to believe, but you don't need to take everything you own on
a trip in order to be well dressed for every occasion. There are many tricks to successful packing. The first is to
coordinate your colors. Make sure that everything you take can be mixed and matched with every other thing. For
example, in the winter you would select
you have made your basic color choice you now must make sure that all of your accessories are appropriate to that color.
This includes shoes, hand bags and make up (particularly lipstick). You don't want to take up room with additional
items when one color will do for all occasions.
Having said all of that don't rely on just one garment or pair of shoes. Things can happen while
your traveling that would render that item unwearable. That is the beauty of having a single color scheme. You
can take two pair of black shoes and have a back up if one pair gets wet or you break a heel. Same with your hand bag.
If you carry one and have another in your suitcase you have a substitute if the strap or zipper breaks. You can have
different styles; one slightly casual and one a little more tailored or dressy. That way you will have a choice depending
on the occasion and still can use it as a back up if the need arises. Better to have a black tailored hand bag or shoes
with a casual outfit than a clutching a bag with a broken handle or hobbling along with a broken heel!
Remember, too, that your undergarments must be suitable for all the items in your
suitcase. Once again, this is a great reason to go with a single color scheme for your trip.
Are you about to reject our instructions because you think your suitcase wardrobe would be too
drab? This will not be the case as you will be accessorizing your wardrobe with bright elements.
For example, you have black slacks, jacket, blouse and skirt in your suitcase. Add a red
blouse or cardigan sweater and a scarf or pin. It all mixes and matches.
will recall in our earlier tips, we had urged you to use color whenever possible and appropriate. When living out of
a suitcase, however, you are limited to what you brought or you have to go do a quick shopping trip. With what we have
recommended you will have a choice. If a bright color is appropriate to the occasion and fits your mood that day, you
are ready. However, if you just want a hint of color, the pin adds some interest to the all black outfit. Or if
it is a serious occasion and you want to fade into the crowd, all black is the way to go that day.
To the extent possible, make everything in your luggage do double duty.
For example, your rain coat can be used as a robe and a slip can double as a nightgown.
The convenient availability of up to date world wide weather information is a tremendous boon to being prepared
for travel. Remembering that the weather is STILL unpredictable, you can at least have a very good idea about what to
prepare for and pack accordingly.
With today's rapid transportation,
you can go from Summer to Winter in just a few hours. The two most important rules to remember for packing are "MIX
and MATCH" and "LAYERING".
"LAYERING" you can build a warm garment to meet the need by adding pieces that will work in warmer temperatures.
Thus you can go from warm to cold with the same suitcase.
with central air and heat available almost anywhere you will find that "LAYERING" will make it possible for you
to go from outside to inside and be comfortable each place. Haven't you found that on the hottest summer days you
have need a heavy wrap to endure artificial temperature in a conference room?
The one exception to the rule is footwear. Unfortunately, there are few alternatives to having just
the right shoes for the weather. There is no substitute for a good pair of boots in the snow.
boots simply won't fit into you suitcase, you will have to wear them on your trip. Tuck a pair of "home socks"
or scuffies in your carry on baggage and you can wear these on the plane, train, bus or car until you reach your destination.
If you followed our earlier tip, you will have these in your carry on baggage already to use to shuffle shoeless through security
anyway. Use them to be comfy during the trip.
It's time to prepare for the Holiday Season. The key to success is planning ahead. As we have advised before,
proper planning makes it possible for you to be spontaneous. This is not a contradiction, though many use it as an excuse
not to plan. Proper planning allows you to have the flexibility to make changes, even at the last minute.
Perhaps the Holidays will allow you to travel. We have supplied you with
tricks on how to make that easier. Certainly travel and expanding your horizons is consistent with this month's
theme. However, consider the possibilities of reaching out even if you stay home. Invite someone over to your home.
From this site, you have learned how create an inviting and comfortable environment You have developed skills for entertaining
and making guests comfortable in your home. Thus, it is time to put those things to work.
We have talked in earlier tips about public speaking, but haven't addressed
"conversation". Though both public speaking and conversation have the same goal of communication they are
different in degree. Conversation is much more intimate and is based on participation by all parties.
So, how do you stimulate participation. Unlike public speaking where you
have the floor, in a conversation and certainly as the hostess, you have an obligation to create the environment where everyone
feels comfortable contributing to the conversation. You might be surprised to find that an essential element in stimulating
conversation is act of listening.
Body language is also important. Try leaning slightly forward towards the person speaking. This
conveys interest. Your gestures will tell the speaker how interested you are and how successful they have been at delivering
Perhaps the most useful gesture of all is a gentle, warm, encouraging smile.
transition to preparing for the Holidays!